Showing posts with label family. Show all posts
Showing posts with label family. Show all posts

Monday, August 02, 2010

Goodbye and hello

Three weeks on and the patient has finally moved to another rehab facility. This time it's in NSW and much closer to home.

So, it was goodbye to Mildura and, among other things, the omnipresent Walnut Avenue ...
Over our extended stay, we became certain that all roads began, ended, converged and dispersed via Walnut. We wondered ... could it in fact be the centre of the universe ...

My brother made a solo return trip to Mildura last week, to oversee Dad's departure. His imagined stay of a day or two turned into five. During hospital siesta hours, he visited Robinvale and Trentham estate, stocking up on local olive oil and red wine ... and solving all upcoming birthday and Christmas presents.


We were really happy to learn that dad had been accepted as a passenger with Angel Flight. This rather extraordinary organisation co-ordinates non-emergency flights throughout Australia, transporting people in remote country areas to wherever they need to be. For dad, Mildura was just so far away from his home. A commercial flight was way too involved and a car trip virtually impossible, while he was still reliant on a tall gutter frame to move around. Angel Flight was a brilliant solution.


I contacted the hospital near his home and they proved to be very friendly and welcoming every time I rang to discuss the transfer arrangements.


We had hopes that the flight would happen on Friday but it was not until last night, Sunday, that the expedition finally got underway.

My brother rang me as the small plane taxied down the runway. He reported that dad had been gently folded into the tiny plane, settled and tucked up with the help of the wonderful pilot and his two genial companions. Thankfully my brother had been able to give dad his very warm coat, leather gloves and woollen cap because the plane's heater was not working.

The pilot and his friends had set off from Melbourne a few hours earlier and would return later that night, after depositing Dad.

They took off, then turned and did a fly past, before beginning the two and a half hour flight north. A late start meant that they would not get to Bankstown until well after dark.

My brother said it was the strangest feeling, watching the plane disappear while he stood on the tarmac, a lone wheelchair in hand. The Mildura chapter of the story was over, but he was still there ...

About an hour out of Bankstown, the pilot called me. He said dad was going really well and they were on time.

Now it was our turn. My husband and I set off around 7pm. We rapidly got lost (it was a dark and stormy night), arriving at the aerodrome just as the plane was taxiing towards us. The passenger terminal was in darkness, locked and bolted. But incredibly, right at that very moment there just happened to be a friendly security guard doing his rounds. He unlocked the gates and escorted our car - driven by my husband - right up to the plane.

I ventured towards the cockpit of the minute aircraft and peered into the back. There was dad, wearing my brother's cap set at a jaunty angle, looking half frozen but smiling happily. The air had been so cold en route that the engine and wings had iced over. Just as well the outside heaters were working. The temperature inside the little plane had dropped to about 1 degrees Celsius (-5C outside.) Yes, brrrrrrr! Dad weathered it all very well, with the aid of the cosy coat, gloves and that cute beret.

I was really quite in awe of the remarkable men that escorted dad back home. These three men were doing this wonderful thing without any recompense or reward, other than, I think, the pleasure of helping people and  the enjoyment of flying. They kept saying what a privilege it had been to carry dad and I really felt they meant it. I'm sure he had shared a few flying stories with them on the journey, one old pilot to a younger crew.

Our next conundrum was how to move dad from aeroplane to car. It was solved quite quickly when my husband and two of the men managed to unfold dad from the plane, then lift and carry him straight to the car.

Then just as quickly as they arrived, we were bidding the men farewell on their long return journey back to Melbourne. I know I'm repeating myself here but I am still thinking of this quite extraordinary little episode.

The rest of the story is more mundane. We drove away with the heater turned high to thaw out the frosty traveller. It was approaching 10 o'clock when we arrived in the mountains. More chillier air I could not have imagined. I initially had trouble convincing the reception staff that we were a genuine transfer. They could not seem to get their heads around our fantastic journey - but a phone call to the nurses soon confirmed our story.

When the nurse came to help dad into the hospital, she remarked on something that had just landed on the wheelchair - snow! Yes, to add to the eventful night, we were in the midst of a long awaited snowfall - "and it's August!" she said.

Dad was deposited into a bed with his name printed on a sign above it - a good sign we thought. The very kind and caring night nurses found him an egg sandwich, apple juice and a cup of tea. He sat on the edge of the bed, quietly recovering from the amazing expedition. We helped him unpack, sort out his things and get a little more comfortable. But the night was drawing to a close. It was time for dad to go to sleep and for us to return home. We left him fairly relaxed and very happy to be that much closer to home.

Even though it was a rainy night and the road was quite dark at that late hour, we had a pretty good trip home. We arrived a little dazed and bemused - although that could have been the extreme sugar hit en route - soft drink and chocolate to keep us awake. We ended the evening with a very late supper of hot tea and more comforting chocolate.

And my brother kept texting me throughout the evening. He was back in the hotel again, the same one we had stayed in from the beginning of this saga. It's never wise to set out on a car trip after 5 in the country, the light is failing and the kangaroos are out so I was very glad he chose to stay put. Plus he was totally exhausted from the eventful day. He returned to the hotel he had checked out of only that morning and reported that he was watching The Movie Show, while sipping some of the red he had bought the other day ... it was groundhog day and was he ever going to be able to leave Mildura? ...



Addendum :::
Dad went well today, the new hospital is somewhat better and somewhat worse: great physio but very ordinary food, and ward chums that like leaving the tv on all the time ...
My brother made a successful escape from Mildura, drove the 8 hours home and was last heard of curled up in front of the fire, en famille and pets, sipping more of the red, a most esteemed and venerable fellow escapee from Mildura ..........

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Mildura days

En route to Mildura. A pink sunrise at Tullamarine airport, through the window of my plane :::

The patient :::

One (very heavy) plastered ankle, post op. Patient doing well ((and much better now, two weeks on))

More than anything, Dad was mad with himself that this could have happened. But he is slowly adapting to the new method of getting around for the next 5 weeks - the hop. Aided by a tall frame, a daily physio class and fluoro pink hand-held weights, he is gradually developing strength - and great pecs! Not bad for an 87 year old!

My brother and I ended up staying a full week down there - we both felt that we couldn't leave him, at least until he was more comfortable and we were a little more sure of the (long) road ahead. After initially hoping we could fly him back to Sydney to be close to me, the hospital advised that it might be better for him to stay there. They were happy to keep him there for the length of his rehabilitation but we still spent the week trying to decide what to do, how to get him home, when, where, etc. In the end we agreed that he was in the best place for now. The hospital is fairly new and we are really pleased with the treatment he is receiving. And the food is great. It's varied and fresh and well cooked and he has a lovely selection of fresh fruit with each meal.
He was initially in a 4 bed ward with 3 other men. One man was in his 50's and his family were frequent visitors, nice people but noisy, talkative Italians. The other two, Tom and Bert were men in their 90's. Both were old farmers from the area, one had been in the RAAF like Dad. Both men were frail but had a sense of humour that was gentle and charming.
Later in the week, Dad was thrilled to have a visitor from Legacy, a retired navy man. Dad has been involved since the end of the 1940's so it was nice for him to be on the receiving end of their support and care.

Dad sent us on daily errands, getting him organised for after our departure, because we both had to eventually get back to work, home and all the rest. So each day, after he had finished his lunch we would head off for ours. Then it was off to do our errands and sometimes we would go for a drive so he could have a rest in the afternoon. We drove by a rather well known Mildura restaurant, and dropped in for lunch. Great pizza and coffee :::
A very skilful front of house man made an offer we couldn't refuse - a table, the last one he assured us, for dinner that night. We had to eat ... so we took up the offer.
Later that night, after an undeniably good but excessively expensive meal, we agreed we had been somewhat duped - crazily priced wine, mostly connected to the owner in some way. But the man can definitely cook. With our close proximity to the kitchen, sitting at the table we were told was reserved for family and friends, (squeezed under the serving counter and butted up beside the plating and despatching table), we could observe The Chef in action. He remained remarkably restrained all evening, but we were nevertheless treated to a show of sorts - a trickle of slightly fawning fans, clutching his books and lining up for his autograph and personal advice for their home cooking. What perhaps amused us the most was our used-car-salesman front of house man who turned up sizzling, smooth and sharply dressed for the evening show. My brother christened him The Pimp, but we agreed he was an extremely likeable one.

So, Mildura. We got to know it quite well over the 8 days. Mildura is renowned for it's grapes, both wine and table, fruit and vegies and particularly wonderful navel oranges, in season right now. Oh, and The Chef.

Monday, November 16, 2009

Grace

It's a warm night here, summer has come. Cicadas chickering in the background. Crickets. Little wisps of cool breeze lick past me.

Earlier evening was stormy, black clouds gathered and some rain fell but all that is gone now. Lightening show in the distance, travelling north, illuminating the sky with sudden bright flashes.

Salad for dinner. One of the chickens I roasted last night and a delicious red cabbage salad with mixed beans, red onion, carrot, capsicum and a pumpkin seed oil and red wine vinegar dressing.

Afterwards, Dad and I shared watermelon on the deck, making the most of the cool air outside. Reminiscing, sharing a few laughs, planning for Christmas and a few weekend trips coming up.

A Jeff marathon has been playing in the background tonight on the teve. It's 12 years.

Not much more needs to be said really. It's all about grace isn't it.

Over to you Jeff ::::

Tuesday, October 13, 2009

Sock it to me

My first attempt at a sock, just like Nan used to make. Her pattern must be tucked away somewhere so hope I can find it ... somewhere! Meanwhile, I found my own pattern, took a visual tutorial from youtube and set off knitting! I have made a few mistakes but generally it's not too bad for a first attempt. As it is one of my unfinished projects and  summer is now approaching, I'm not sure when I'll complete it. Just wish Nan was here to show me how it's done - she knitted socks for the soldiers in WW1. We all still use some of the socks she knitted - they just go on an on. I'll find a pair and photograph them to show you - soon.

Wednesday, October 07, 2009

it is often who you're with

I am so unoriginal, I keep seeing other peoples great ideas for posts and going "why didn't I think of that?"
This post is inspired by a cute little piece from jane brocket

Who you watch stuff with can be just as important as what you watch. Your viewing companion can also impact on the experience ...

Watching with a parent can be either an uplifting, fun confirmation of who you are, both together and as individuals, or completely squirmworthy.
Take my lovely parents - here we have two very different movie companions:
Mum and I were great movie amigos, watching everything and anything really. We watched all the musicals and sang along, we loved historical dramas, comedy and the current movies of the day. Mum might not have enjoyed some of the things I liked (Star Wars springs to mind) I didn't always like her favourites - Pretty woman, and she adored Ryan's Daughter. But we relished the shared experiences and we watched on together, regardless - and often had some good discussions afterwards. This could be one small corner of our top 100 (there's no way we could select just 10!!) in no particular order:
Oklahoma, Gigi, Mrs Miniver, Now Voyager, A Fish called Wanda, Out of Africa, Roman Holiday, North by Northwest, The King and I, Going my way?, Desk Set ....

Watching movies with Dad, however, is a different kettle of fish. He is not really what I would call a movie buff. Although he enjoys seeing fil-ums and he has clear likes and dislikes, he finds many celluloid pieces silly, distasteful or just time wasters (he would much rather be watching the footy!). But we have a few firm favourites and good shared memories over the years - watching all the Pink Panther movies together and laughing til we cried, James Bond and Indiana Jones adventures, movies all 3 of us loved like Local Hero, Chariots of Fire, Brassed Off and mostly anything from the 30s, 40s and 50s, particularly those with Jimmy Stewart, Katherine Hepburn and Spencer Tracy. We sat up and watched a Bill Collins offering recently (I can't remember the name) It was a melodramatic black and white costume drama and we loved every minute of it, cursing the villain, and loving how over the top it was.

UV and I, on the other hand, love most genres and many of the same films - anything scifi for one. A tiny selection of movies we liked: No Country for old men, The Godfather 1 & 2, Amelie, Dead Man (Johnny Dep). But we have lots of our own faves too - he loves b graders and Steven Seagall  movies for a good laugh. Unlike him, I can watch and rewatch things like Lord of the Rings, Love Actually, Room with a View, old musicals and the odd girlie flick - but I do have definite likes and dislikes there - hate Pretty Woman, love Notting Hill for example. I love movies that baffle me - The Draughtsman's Contract, 2001, Donnie Darko. I love World Movies from all over the big wide world. I love Jacque Tati movies (introduced by another movie companion of complex tastes, my brother.) Some I've loved include Nosferatu, Gone with the Wind, Bladerunner, Fargo, Pulp Fiction, Pan's Labyrinth, Gosford Park, Hellboy, Fantasia, The Graduate, The Sting, Gladiator, Rebecca, Lost in translation ...

Now, when it comes to my niece and I, we have funny tastes in movies - I was 10 when she was born so we have a shared history growing up. Our dvd sessions these days largely figure the movies that made us laugh then and still do, but sometimes now for very different reasons.
This might be our top 10:
Grease :: we sing all the songs, laugh at how bad an actor a certain star is, google how old they all were when they made it and now agree that Stockard Channing and her character are the best things about this film!
Point Break :: what more can I say - pirouette sky diving!!!
Dirty Dancing :: we watched this again only the other day - what a cliched script but how funny it all is, and the inevitable quote was yelled at the top of our voices - "noone puts baby in a corner!!!")
Sound of Music :: just a great singalong, we know all the words and ring each other up whenever it comes on the tellie
Xanadu :: ELO songs to singalong to, crazy rollerskating muses, 80s fashion, unbelievably abyssmal story idea and worse script - what could be more fun!
The 'burbs :: we first saw this at the movies when my neice lived right there, in the burbs! always makes us laugh
Ghost :: Patrick Swayze is figuring large in this list! - more pirouette moves by Patrick throughout to keep us entertained
Saturday Night Fever :: how can you not love Travolta and the mad 70s scene
The Lost Boys :: both of us drooled over Jason Patrick then, now we chortle about Keifer the blonde vampire .. and we love the wool-uf! (the husky dog that belongs to the brothers)
Groundhog Day :: this is one that we just adore - do I need to explain this one? Bill Murray says it all

Having different people you watch movies with in your life gives you a wonderful opportunity to celebrate the relationship you have with them. And it also gives you permission to be anything you like, whether its being a silly teenager again or a serious movie buff. For me, when it comes down to it, it's really the people around me that make the movies.

Sunday, October 04, 2009

Why Sunday was nice

Drank coffee and browsed books here
Went on a long picturesque drive
Ate lunch with family beside the water
Sang happy birthday to a 1 year old and ate yummy homemade chocolate cake
Watched this movie here
Had a refreshing vodka, lime and tonic, sitting on red ottomans
Ate very delish garlic bread with a side of bruschetta, Italian meatballs and a rocket salad
Caught up with my favourite cousin

All in all, a superb Sunday.

Friday, October 02, 2009

2nd evening of blogfesting

OK, what to blog tonight? - my idea this morning was Flowers in my October garden. I sat on the deck this morning eating my mainstay brekkie, porridge with blueberries and yummy greek style yoghurt plus a cuppa, black and well stewed. There before me were all my current floral emanations, not a thing to be dismissed as I am currently a ghost in my garden when it comes to tending it - I gaze at it all ... then re-fill the cat's water bowls. I did finish weeding all the pots on the deck recently, something I had begun doing only about 3 weeks before. Grouping all the pots into zones on the deck was an improvement but I currently have a pretty sad and seedy collection of things, although the lobelia, self sown, is doing well and the succulents hang in there. Walking around, snapping my flowers did uncover a few unexpected things ... the shot (top right) is of a succulent I brought back in my suitcase on the plane from Melbourne (ooops, should I admit that?) It was a plant that my cousin had grown from a cutting, one that our grandmother had grown - kind of nice to have something growing that was my Grandma's in Melbourne. Two things I treasure that she gave me - the piano sheet music for Sheep may safely graze and the book The Little white horse by Elizabeth Goudge, one of my absolute faves, not only because I loved the story so much as a child but that she gave it to me. So this plant makes three things I have that she loved - kinda nice!
Anyhow, LOOK!!! there are buds on it (they are the long purply things) - first time I've had that happen. How wonderful, I will keep my eye and camera on this.

Other plants I took, just the better shots:





I like the owl looking at the single strawberry flower. The little blue flowers in the grass come up every spring. The orchid is also a first, never before flowered in my garden. And there's the cat's water bowl I regularly fill, beside the self sown lobelia. Not too bad for a wild garden.

I do have to give a nod to  Amy's Ideas Hub and today's theme of Rocktober - coz I have a v.fave song at the moment:



Just adore this, the steely feedbacky (very technical description there) sound of that guitar at the start, that amazing voice of Michael McDonald from Steely Dan and Doobies fame, the great song in itself by Grizzly Bear and their sublime vocals. WOW!!! Haven't felt this immediate zing for a song for a long time - thanks JJJ for throwing this in my direction on the way to work one morning!! Bought the album on the strength of this - a little disappointed this version is only on the b side of the single so will hunt that down, but the album is fab, interesting and quite addictive. This has kickstarted my desire to rekindle my music collection - a bit neglected over the last many years, compared to my obsession with music once upon a time. So, yay! This is a great thing to celebrate on Rocktober day of Blogtoberfest.

P.S. I've gone pink for October - Pink awareness month. It's 10 years last August since my mum died. She would love the idea of a pink month and she would love my post today, celebrating flowers, one of her favourite things. I miss you mum xx